Oh boy (or girl) here we go again…We’re expecting baby number 4! I can’t believe it this will be my fourth child! Let’s shake things up. I am excited to share my pregnancy journey with you. These next 9 months is going to full of ups and downs. Trust me I already not looking forward to the pregnancy discomforts but the end results will be worth when I get to hold my 4th baby in my arms.
How I found out we’re expecting baby number 4!
After, 10 days late, I finally found the courage and went to Walmart and bought pregnancy test and did the deed. It was positive. I cried. I don’t know what to do. I called my husband. I said to him, I honestly don’t know if I can handle one more kid in my life. He replied to me, “You’re tough and you can handle just about anything”. We might not plan having 4 children but God’s plan is better than ours. Then he reminded me the Isaiah 55:8-9. I was convicted. I knew he was right.
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.
“Everything happens for a reason. Wait on God and trust in Him. He wants the best for us. He wants to take us from glory to glory, and from victory to victory.”
FIRST TRIMESTER SURVIVAL GUIDE:
After experiencing three pregnancies myself, I decided to share my own personal first trimester survival guide, just in case you think you might need one. (Trust me, I wish I would have had one my first time around.)
*Stay hydrated.*Water is #1, but some teachers recommend lemonade, Gatorade, tea, or Ginger Ale. See what works for you, but regardless, keep drinking.
*Dress Comfortably: Ladies, it might be time to hang up the heels… at least temporarily. Personally, I didn’t until my feet swelled up to twice their size, so it’s entirely up to you. But I think dressing in clothing that affords you more comfort can really help you feel better about yourself, physically and mentally. (Especially if you’re pregnant but not announcing it quite yet.) Choose fabrics that feel good on your skin, and are breathable. Also, see below regarding bras… because bras are important enough to get their own section.
*Go to bed early, wake up early. Basically, sleep when you feel poorly, rise when you feel your best.
*Leave the dishes for the morning. This went against everything my mother taught me, but sometimes, you gotta do what you gotta do.
*Be OK with saying no and not being able to do everything.
*Realize it’s OK to let your kids watch TV while you rest/nap/cry/etc. This too shall pass, this too shall pass.
*Find support. Whether it be your husband, a friend, small group at church, your mom, your midwife/ OBGYN, or a combination of all of the above. Having people we can commune with, ask for prayer from, listen to and receive advice from, and simply know they are there will do wonders for you!
As this pregnancy has progressed, I’ve slowly come to terms with the reality that we’re going to soon have four children. I also learned to enjoy my life and live my life one day at a time. Let’s start with, stop thinking too much. We make life more complicated and stressful by thinking of our past and looking for the future. I know we can’t help ourselves but do that. I even know that life, sometimes does throws us at the mouth of some situations where we have to take lessons from our past and look for what might be the outcome of our actions in future. But not every single day is ‘that day’ or is it?
Second would be, taking control of your thoughts:-) it is the first step towards taking life one day at a time. The moment you think you have started to over think a situation, stop yourself right there and engage yourself into something else. So keep a balance of both, don’t over think and don’t under think.
Third, I’d say is accepting the fact that this is how life goes:-) we all are indeed caught up in the loop of our past, present and future. We tend to take a lot of things at one time. We can’t avoid thinking about it. So it’s OK, life doesn’t have to be perfect or too much organized. It feels good only when it is chaotic, just a bit.
I’m excited to have another baby in my arms, I’m really looking forward to not being pregnant, and especially eager to see her/his older siblings love on her/him. The love they already have for her/him has been so contagious and heartwarming. From the moment we told them, they’ve been exploding with affection and tenderness towards my ever-growing belly. Especially Tabitha. My daughter told me, she prayed to God to have a baby sister. OK, it’ was her fault why I got pregnant. Just kidding! SO we’ll see.. She’s so thoughtful and sensitive. She’ll just come over to my belly and whisper sweet nothings to a baby.